Flower Essences for New Mothers

Being a new mother (and father, but it’s less physical) presents all kinds of highs and lows ;).

Whether this is the 1^st child or the 4^th child, each pregnancy, birth and 4^th trimester is unique.  As a human and a mother you change and grow, so each experience is unique.  Each child comes in with their own personality and own unique challenges and gifts.

This dance provides a lot of opportunities for spiritual, mental, emotional and physical growth.    It is a joyous and sometimes daunting experience.

Flower essences are here to help you, your baby and the rest of the family.

The first essence I recommend is Crisis, Desert Emergency Formula (by Desert Alchemy).  This can be used topically on the baby’s anterior fontanel when nothing you do to soothe them seems to do the trick.  It can be used in the bath (I use 3-5 drops of stock or dosage level) and recommend parent and baby get in the tub together…soothe everyone.  You can put 1 drop of stock or 3 drops of dosage in your water and sip it, if you are the one falling apart.  If your pet is freaking out about the new addition, put 1 drop of stock essence in their water.

Another excellent essence is the New Mother Formula (by Desert Alchemy).  It soothes the physical stress of growing someone for 9 months and then birthing them in a relatively short period of time, as well as getting used to them feeding from you in a different way and more public way.

It supports you while you ask all the questions,

*How do I know the difference between a wet diaper cry and a hungry cry?  Do I believe in pacifiers, cloth diapers, etc?

*How do I negotiate for sleep, privacy, quiet time, bonding time (with baby, partner, older child, pet, etc), …so many things to shift and learn how to do in a new way.

*What does it mean that I can see all my ancestors faces parading before me in this new little face?

*How do I hold this new identity of being a mom to this beautiful little one and not lose myself?  *How do I negotiate breastfeeding and menstrual cramps or healing from perineal tears, etc ?

*How do I integrate the deeply intense spiritual experiences that I can’t explain?

* How do I feel confident doing this activity that is so new for me?

So many physical, mental, emotional and spiritual insights and shifts.

If you find worry fills your days, Red Chestnut (by Healing Herbs) is for overworry about others (after this first night of my first having strange breathing patterns, I found myself waking to check his breathing…very common for first time parents).  If thoughts about how to balance this new life with the old life, how to pay the bills, and other endless mental chatter is how you are processing, White Chestnut (by Healing Herbs) will be a boon for you.

If you are interested in exploring what your own optimal combination would be, I happily do remote sessions by phone or video, so you can attend to baby if needed during a session.  To schedule email penni@healingflowerenergies.com or call 650-218-5163.

Cell Salts for Pregnancy

Cell salts for pregnant women:

One of the easiest ways to use cell salts when you are pregnant is to use the Biochemic Phosphates. This includes:

#2 Calc Phos: This mineral supports teeth and bones. If you are deficient in calcium baby will pull calcium for their teeth and bones from yours. So this is very important to take to make sure not only YOU but baby has enough calcium for teeth and bones.

#4 Ferr Phos: This mineral supports blood, including iron supply in the blood. This is a great support, especially if you tend to be anemic or if you have varicose veins.

#6 Kali Phos: This mineral supports the nerves. This can be emotional anxiety or frustration or for the physical nerves and any nerve pinching including sciatica.

#8 Mag Phos: This mineral supports muscles to know how to tighten and RELEASE. This can be calf cramps, headaches, and can be helpful in labor.

#10 Nat Phos: This mineral supports a balance of pH in the body. In pregnancy there is so much shifting that it can be difficult to find balance. This shows up as acid reflux, heartburn or some forms of nausea.

The easiest way to take cell salts is to place 6 pellets in a glass of water and sip.
You can also take 2 pellets under your tongue 3 times a day if that is easier.

Parenting and old trauma resurfacing

One curious bit about parenting is that when your child become the age that you were when you first experienced a trauma, your unresolved trauma surfaces.  It doesn’t feel like a gift, but it is.  When trauma resurfaces we can more easily work with it and move it out of our physical tissues ( we carry these traumas in our cells until they can be healed).

Because we are so connected both physically and energetically with our children, their joys are our joys and their sorrows are our sorrows.  The more sensitive and empathic you are you might even physically take this on.

What is surprising is when our old traumas resurface.  We are energetically tuned in to the age of our child and our inner child.  I have had so many clients (female and male) have old trauma resurface when their child becomes the age they first experienced the trauma.  This seems most impactful when the trauma was sexual abuse.   Not only are all your emotions coming to the surface…and sometimes you have suppressed that this trauma ever happened…but you are busy trying to protect your child from having a similar trauma.

There are essences here to support you.  If the trauma has been suppressed and you guess that something happened, but you are not sure, Bisbee Beehive Cactus from Desert Alchemy is so helpful.  This essence helps you to know what happened while healing the trauma quickly so it can be released.  Post Traumatic Stabilizer from FES and Star of Bethlehem from Bloesem Remedies are at the top of the list for healing.  Each person is unique so combinations are tailored for your highest possible good.

First time Breastfeeding? 3-6 Weeks Postpartum.

Cluster feeding begins to happen at this time.  Hang in there.  Use the rescue remedy cream to help with sore nipples and airdry your nipples as much as possible.  Also letting breastmilk dry on nipples is very healing (breastmilk is also great for pink eye and baby eczema…in some countries they store extra breastmilk to keep senior citizens healthy…you are creating great stuff!).

You have passed a milestone. Hooray! Your body has figured out the fluid level, the general timing of when and how much the baby wants to nurse.

You should no longer feel the engorgement/swelling and often this freaks moms out thinking “Maybe I don’t have enough milk”. You have enough milk, it’s just your body has adjusted.

How to check you have “enough” milk: Baby is filling about 10 diapers a day and baby is gaining weight.

If you have not already joined a breastfeeding support group or postpartum class now is the time! Nothing like hanging out with people having a similar experience to know that you are not crazy and all of this very new stuff is normal, maybe weird and wonderful, but normal.

First Time Breastfeeding? Newly Postpartum.

You want to place the baby to the breast within the 1^st hour if at all possible. This is when they are most awake and have the energy to learn how to suck. (just think of any energy it takes to learn something new.)

It usually take 3-5 days for your milk to come in. You do have colostrum (the stuff that was leaking out above). This is very high in sugar and babies only need 4-6 drops every 2 hours in order to keep their sugar levels normal. So don’t panic or worry that it isn’t enough. If your baby won’t suck, then squeeze out these drops on your finger and place the finger in their mouth. (If you want you can place the tip of the finger on the roof of their mouth to encourage the suck)

Nurse and nurse and nurse as much as the baby wants. The baby is programming your body to produce milk depending on demand.

When your milk does come in:

Your breasts are adjusting to all this new fluid and working on learning how to do fluid control. This means you can leak a lot, your breasts can become engorged and the let down can be intense for baby. All is normal and will eventually take care of itself…in the meantime:

• If you leak a lot: There are plastic shields to place in nursing bras that collect the milk. There are also pads, but I have found many women who use these pads end up with yeast (candida/thrush). If you suspect thrush or have a history of candida leave the flap s down on your nursing bra as often as you can so they can airdry. 
• If your breasts are engorged: This is temporary. Do not pump lots out. If you need to squeeze a few drops out to get nipple accessible to the baby, you can hand express.
• If this is not enough and you are not allergic to sulfa drugs you can place a raw cabbage leaf (white or green stains less) between your bra and breast and the heat of your breasts will wilt the cabbage and release the chemicals to bring the “swelling” down.

 

Cluster feeding!!! Your babe will go through stages of increasing your milk supply by nursing closer together. This does not mean you do not have enough milk. It means they are about to have a growth spurt. All good. If you find your nipples sensitive then put the rescue remedy cream on right after nursing. It will melt in and nipples will be happy and so will you and baby. No need to wipe it off before feeding again (note on packaging is FDA required because the original preparation has a tad of alcohol in it).

First Time Mother? What to Know Before the Birth.

First time breastfeeding?

Hello first time breastfeeder!

Here are some things to know ahead and then check back with at the appropriate times:

Your body prepares milk that is age appropriate to your baby…amazing! And it also prepares milk that prevents disease based on the baby’s backwash that goes into your milk ducts. (CLICK HERE for a relatively new finding by a scientist mom!).

Usually before giving birth (up to 4 weeks before) you may start leaking colostrum. This is a good thing and you know that your body is on track. At this point you can just put a tissue or cotton pads in your bra to not have a wet mark on your shirt/dress.

• Do wear a shirt braless to bed to allow your nipples to get used to not being protected all the time.
• DO NOT rough up the nipples with a washcloth.
• Rescue Remedy cream is great for preparing the nipples for breastfeeding….apply daily

The more you can trust that your body knows what it is doing (even if your mind doesn’t) the body responds by working with ease and grace.

• Getting sleep is crucial to keeping milk supply happy. Get creative about how to meet everyone in the family’s needs. Including yours!!
• Using one or more of these flower essences can help: The New Mother Formula, Crisis, Inner Mother, Milky Nipple Cactus (all from Desert Alchemy), 5 flower formula (from Healing Herbs).

Homeopathy 101 for Babies

So here’s the scoop, homeopathic in a nutshell:

Take one part of something (in our case chamomile flowers) and grind it and put in smidge of alcohol to suspend it (Make it liquid).  Take one drop of that and add 99 drops of water.  Shake vigorously (succus) 100 times.

Take one drop from that vial and add 99 drops of water.  Again shake vigorously.

To get a 6C potency you do that 6 times.

To get a 30C potency you do that 30 times.

To get a 200 C potency you do that 200 times.  ( a long process!!)

Once you get past avogrado’s number which is something like 5 times, there is no original chemistry there.  Just the energetic signature of the plant or animal or mineral that was first ground.  If you use a very sensitive lab test you can tell that the water is different from the beginning.

Drop one drop of that on milk sugar pellets or other pellets and put in vial and sell as homeopathic chamomila.

Hope that makes sense.

Most babies are either Chamomilla babies or Pulsatilla.  How do you know who you’ve got?

Chamomilla babies often get colic.  They feel better when bounced up and down and they also are never happy with whatever you are doing for more than 20 minutes.  They get soothed for the first 20 minutes and then they need something else.

Pulsatilla babies like to be held most of the time.  They can also later (can be 6 months, can be 30 years) show a real independent streak.  Like I can do this on my own…now I am falling apart, hold me.

The remedy can be found online or in health food stores.  If you baby is under 6 months you want to crush one 30 c pellet between 2 spoons and place the powder on the tongue so they suck on it.  The point is to suck on the homeopathic to let the energetics support the child’s energetics.

Birth Process…How do I know?

Here is my advice and knowledge:

0-4 cms (some say 6 cms) is Prodromal Labor

• Timings of contractions are anywhere from 20 minutes apart to 5 minutes apart…and it can jump around
• Physical-uterus gets tight and there is tightness at top of uterus too when you have a contraction
• What to do-stay home as long as you can, learn how to ride the waves of the contractions, be prepared to go when you don’t have enough hot water to take showers to relax or when contractions are somewhere between 5-1-1 and 3-1-1 

4-7 cms

• Timings: contractions become regular, as if you can set a watch to it, generally 5 mins apart to start
• Physical Quality of contraction changes. Usually at about 4 cms you need to be focusing on breathing into contraction when it happens where before you didn’t have to. You may not be able to talk during a contraction due to focusing.
• What to do– begin thinking about how to gracefully transition into next location if there is one. Ie, going to the hospital or if birthing at home getting into the labor tub or ?? “Water” (amniotic fluid) can Break anytime (this is the fluid that the baby pees out. Sometimes before contractions start, sometimes after the baby is fully out. This can be a small rip and act like a leak or it can be the Hollywood gush like a broken pickle jar. If water breaks before labor starts then drink lots of water so the baby has fluid to relax in and contractions have some cushioning.

7-10 cms is transition

• Timings-usually about 3 mins apart going to closer together
• Physical-Quality of contractions change and getting into cat position can be quite helpful
• What to do-as the adrenaline kicks in remember that energy is what you will use to help the baby Trust your body and baby to know “what to do” DNA carries the information transition all the way through the birth canal

Baby travelling down canal

• Timings-contractions can often get longer apart
• Physical – Quality of contraction changes try different position and trust your body to tell you what is working
• What to do– Breathe, follow the body’s urges and remember that the baby is working as well to come out…it is not all up to mom. Baby can hear and know dad’s voice so dad can send encouraging words to baby. Nurse baby as soon as possible for best latch, best within 1 hour as they get sleepy from all the work they did to be born.